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Everyone onÂ Islington Faces BlogÂ has a story.Â Â In Londonâs whirlwind rush how can you find the time or the strength to be calm and make big decisions that are right for you? Step forward life coach Karen Liebenguth who coaxes out the best you can beâŠ and it all starts with a walk in aÂ Â park like Highbury Fields.Â Â InterviewÂ byÂ Nicola Baird
âI always wanted to combine working with people and being in nature. All my life Iâve spent a lot of time outside and Iâve felt the positive impact of nature,â says Karen Liebenguth who grew up in Dusseldorf Germany, but has been in London for the past 13 years.Â Weâre at the Oasis cafĂ© on Highbury Fields, sitting outside with our coffees, under an umbrella thatâs keeping off the light spring rain. Karen, wrapped up cosily in hat and waterproof jacket looks over Higbury Fields contentedly. âIâm passionate about making a difference in peopleâs lives â helping people to live their life more fully.â
Karen, 46, does this by working as a life coach. Â She sees all ages, men and women, but reckons many women come to her when they âare in their 40s and 50s. They want to know what to do with the next half of their life, and often donât want to live like the first half of their life on what seems to be other peopleâs agenda.â
Tips for well-being
Go outside, even if it is only for 10 minutes. It doesnât have to be a park or green space, you can always walk around the block.
Have a cup of tea sitting on the sofa or balcony or in your garden and do nothing. Try to create 10 minutes to half an hour every day where you do nothing.
Write down three things you are grateful for. Practicing gratitude helps people focus on positive things that happen. Our human psyche likes to focus on the negative but when you focus on things that havenât worked you canât ever remember someone smiling, or holding the door or offering a cup of tea. I like to think about what was the best bit of today â just by thinking about it I smile.
Well-being comes from reducing mind chatter. Stress is often a deep sense that life is too much so when you plan next week, allow some me time. Perhaps donât watch the telly and donât use Facebook or Twitter or email. You might find it helpful to say no to joining colleagues in the pub. Instead have one evening a week which belongs to yourself. You could do a yoga class, have a bath, read, paint, draw or pickÂ up the phone and talk to a dear friend for a meaningful chat.
Occasionally take a day for reflection â be completely by yourself. It helps ideas come and helps you think things through. All my best ideas come when Iâm on a solitary walk.
Inside or out?
Karen is happy to see clients at her consultation room, or on Skype, but finds that â90 per cent of my clients want sessions in green spaceâ. Favourite places include Green Park and Victoria Park, near her Bethnal Green home, but sheâs often on Highbury Fields, because she works part-time as a Life Coach at the Healthy Living Centre above Mother Earth on Highbury Corner. ââWalking next to each other is different to sitting opposite someone in a consulting rooms, it feels very equal.â
Life coaching is growing in popularity, and Karenâs unique approach in taking her clients into Londonâs green space seems to be working well. âPeople arrive on auto-pilot and at a fast pace. Then we walk across the land and they slow down. Our mind and body also slows down. The green space gives space for thinking. It allows the mind to flow and not let it get static and stuck.â
âPeople talk and I listen,â continues Karen. âSometimes I reflect back what I hear. Thatâs beneficial for clients because they are reassured that Iâm listening. I offer a lot of listening time â itâs unconditional as I have no agenda. For some people itâs all thatâs needed, you can walk out of your problem into your own solution.â
Another challenge for many people is undoing parentalÂ expectations. âOur parentsâ values are often with us for the first 40 years. Thatâs when people feel strong enough and grown-up enough to look at our own values and finally let go. A lot of people are deeply dissatisfied with their ownÂ life, they find it lacks purpose and meaning. A recurrent theme is that each one of us want to make a contribution and find our lifeâs purpose, something that serves a greater good â and leads to our spiritual or personal development.â
I love Mother Earth, on 282-284 St Paul’s Road, because itâs an organic shop and close to nature.
The Ecology Centre inÂ Gillespie Park, by Arsenal tube, is a wonderful place. Find it at 191 Drayton Park, N5.
I sometimes go to the North London Buddhist Centre on Holloway Road for talks, classes and yoga.
My favourite restaurant on Upper Street is Galipolli. I like the one near the cinema as it has so many vegetarian choices, the staff are very friendly and you can sit there forever without being chucked out.
JustÂ walk and talk
Using the space under the lovely London plane tree avenues and grassy lawn of Highbury Fields, Karenâs calmness and ability to ask the right questions seems to help everything fall into place.
So how does Karen unwind after hearing so many peopleâs worries?
She smiles in recognition but has the answerâŠ âI go for a 10-12 mile walk at least once a month â and I have done for at least 12 years!â
One of her favourite walksÂ on the south coast can be reached by train. âJust one hour and 20 minutes from Victoria train station is Seaford (change at Lewes) from there you can walk the Seven Sisters and the Cuckmere Valley and across the South Downs. Itâs a beautiful walk.â
Then she laughs, leans forward and shares the emotional good sense that she hopes more of us will discover: âIt makes me happy when people say âI might go outdoors a bit moreâ. My secret belief is if we all spent more time outdoors the world would look different and weâd all treasure the environment a bit more. Itâs as simple as that.â
Email Karen for a free 30 minute taster session outdoors on Highbury Fields (or by phone or Skype). This offer applies to all new clients.
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Thanks for stopping by. Nicola